i am sorry to say this i really am but lately feeling have gotten really weird, i really love my daughter a lot i really do may be people think i don’t but i do. and yes my family has also felt the same that i am not that good of a mother. but honestly i know what i go through having such things wondering in my mind. i am definitely not bad to my daughter and i can never be she is my blood i have given birth to her. but the love has something missing.and i feel it when when she cries and is not ready to sleep at night and wants me to talk all the time. and i just simply love her when she gives me a big smile when she gets up in the morning and i say “good morning”. and she giggles on top of her lungs. by the Grace of God she is one adorable child who is perfect in health.

i have felt really weird and i am really sorry for it. i do not think it is appropriate for mother to think this way. but it just feels that my world has been attacked by some sort of bomb who keeps blasting everyday and no matter how much effort i put it shatters again and again. my biggest support is my hubby, i love him for being there always. i badly want to work and he has been supportive to this too. other family members are also good but it is just they have always see what i might not be doing in there eyes, but in reality i am doing all those things. and they never appreciate for what i am doing for my baby.only my hubby and the doctor appreciate that i am doing more than enough.

after having baby i feel that few people are not even concerned for what i want what they just think that i should start doing everything on my own from now because i have baby now and i am old enough. when i believe there is time to everything you just cant jump into stuff before time, i am just 22 at the moment and have loads of things to settle in my life.

anyway, i must say being mom is great at least you get to learn and bear a lot. therefore new moms to be, open what you feel and want in life after baby as the time once gone will never return. and do not take my experience of feelings to heart as everyone goes through different situations and incidents.

well that was a bit worry some time for me. as i had not seen my daughter well for a long period, meaning that she got ill after every 2 to 3 days which i would say really worried me. something negative got injected inside me, my daughter cried so much that i extremely used to get irritated though i knew that kids cry. even if she was k and she cried for milk or for no reason at times i got frustrated to that extent that i did not want her with me at that moment. i just did not know how to handle it. By grace of God my hubby was really patient in helping me, though few times he also got irritated and his facial expressions were clear that he has no capacity to bear my this attitude of nagging regarding our daughter but still he never said anything except that i should not be talking about it so much and he was right because it showed that i am taking care of his comfort.and this is what i felt not him.

with such young baby it is not easy. this is what i always knew but still going through this was odd for me as i never wanted this maybe it is part of depression but still i wanted that it overs soon.

my child has been great no matter i have ever said it or not i knew that she is one adorable sweety that God gifted us.

she got the vaccination and she was quiet cranky for next two weeks i was really tired and i used to think that why is it happening to my child but then i had heard that many children go through this, also she could not sleep at night usually after two she fell asleep or around four. that really disturbed me. i just kept thinking that my life was over.but then i heard people saying that this is how it is. i didn’t know who to believe my gut or people?

anyway i started her with cows milk as well half half both. hoping that soon will see good results.

i am grateful to my hubby he is best daddy and beat hubby, i would say to be blessed with great partner is a most important one needs.also, to blessed with a kid who is easy going is important too equally.

Electronic cigarettes are made of atomizers, which apply nicotine, whatever flavoring, and h2o. The vapor that appears after you involve a blow is actually the vapor of the nicotine and liquid, which enters the lungs and provides a scuffle related to an dispenser.

Electronic cigarettes do not release any second hand smoke, allowing you to smoke them in areas where other cigarettes are banned. They also lack most of the carcinogenic and other harmful additives that you will find in most regular cigarettes. These cigarettes will greatly reduce the probability that you will contract lung cancer, emphysema, or other diseases that are usually associated with tobacco smoking.

The new e-cigarettes aren’t lit, but each has a light at one end which looks like the cherry on regular cigarettes, making smoking them much more realistic. Each one retails for roughly $25.00. They have about the same number of puffs found in four or five traditional cigarette packs. Electronic cigars can be obtained as well.

More and more people are turning to these new electronic cigs as the price of a pack of cigarettes rises, especially in urban areas where taxes have increased to astronomical heights. In some places, the price of one pack has risen above ten dollars. Yet those who are addicted are still paying these prices, even to the detriment of their family’s financial situation. To these people, this product may be a viable answer.

These battery operated cigarettes may be the answer to many of the arguments against smoking. As a healthier way to smoke, and less expensive in many areas, your nicotine addiction will be satisfied without upsetting those around you. These cigarettes are currently available at many malls, and online.

The electronic cigarette is becoming very popular these days. Smoking is banned in many places, so people are turning instead to the e cigarette as an option; they are also known as an e-cig. They are smokeless but still have nicotine and give the illusion of actually smoking. They do not put any secondhand smoke into the environment, and they do not contain any harmful ingredients other than the nicotine. Each one costs about $25.00. They provide as many puffs as four or five packs of real cigarettes. They are cheaper in the long run.

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The E-cigarette is sold with five cartridges ranging in levels from one-sixth the nicotine content of a normal cigarette to none at all. Based on nicotine replacement therapy, smokers can use the E-Cigarette to slowly wean themselves off the nicotine cartridges, ideally ending with the nicotine-free insert.

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When i came home she slept for three hours and then she woke up for milk and it was a task. all of sudden she stopped having milk and could not latch at all. and i used to sit two bending and to help her latch for milk. and she just could not. she kept crying all day and night. it just was so terrible, and hard to control irritated mood. i remember who ever came thought that i am not putting up enough effort to feed her or that i am not feeding her my milk. so many comments just made me feel irritated.

I was never guided that breasts should be really soft and pressable that baby can latch easily, mine were a little soft, i was guided late by that time i got fever and i fainted and my baby was in my lap and my hubby held her that she does not fall. she was premature baby, just 4.8 pounds. it was hard to take care.

Worst comments had been that i did not eat enough in last days and that is why my amniotic fluid dropped but it was not the case and this is what i know. it just seemed that everyone was trying to tell me that i do not care for the baby and this really depressed me. i not only felt this but i got really depressed that as if God had put me in big trial and i was not able to pass at all. i started feeling that i was loosing my hubby, and i was not able to enjoy the motherhood fresh start it just seemed a punishment and it was clear that i was going through depression. it just seemed that children were not a blessing. i just did not want another one but i knew i cant run away now and will have to have another one after few years as my hubby loves kids. and it depressed me further more.

I was all the time scared that i was loosing my hubby maybe i could not stand his attention diverted but i got it in head a little bit. but honestly it is not easy to fight negative feelings. and most disturbing part was that i knew my hubby was going through frustrated moods but he never discussed, and when i asked he promised that he did not feel this at all. and in case my hubby and my feelings were opposite as what i have heard from others. another reason is for all messed up feelings that she has been ill till now,flu,and i had to put her on formula milk which made her constipated and it took time to settle her down i think one full month to calm her down.

No matter what i will i knew one thing in all these things, all negative wives i loved my daughter a lot and i took care of her as much as i could and no matter how much frustrated it has been i did it. and she is one adorable baby and i know no one can ever replace her.

Thus, still fighting to get used to motherhood, and i am wishing everyone good luck who are going to be mothers. and one thing i would suggest is that it negative feelings do not take my experience too serious as i believe that everyone has different experiences and that try keeping help it would keep giving you break and would let you have time of your own.

Postpartum Depression Overview

You’ve just had a baby, one of the most important and happiest events in your life. “What could make a woman happier than a new baby?” you wonder. So why are you so sad?

We don’t know for sure, but you are not alone. As many as 80% of women experience some mood disturbances after pregnancy (”postpartum”). They feel upset, alone, afraid, or unloving toward their baby, and guilt for having these feelings.

For most women, the symptoms are mild and go away on their own. But 10-20% of women develop a more disabling form of mood disorder called postpartum depression.

* The “baby blues” are a passing state of heightened emotions that occurs in about half of women who have recently given birth.

o This state peaks 3-5 days after delivery and lasts from several days to 2 weeks.

o A woman with the blues may cry more easily than usual and may have trouble sleeping or feel irritable, sad, and “on edge” emotionally.

o Because baby blues are so common and expected, they are not considered an illness.

o Postpartum blues do not interfere with a woman’s ability to care for her baby.

o The tendency to develop postpartum blues is unrelated to a previous mental illness and is not caused by stress. However, stress and a history of depression may influence whether the blues go on to become major depression.

* Postpartum depression is depression that occurs soon after having a baby. Some health professionals call it postpartum nonpsychotic depression.

o This condition occurs in about 10-20% of women, usually within a few months of delivery.

o Risk factors include previous major depression, psychosocial stress, inadequate social support, and previous premenstrual dysphoric disorder (see premenstrual syndrome for more information).

o Symptoms include depressed mood, tearfulness, inability to enjoy pleasurable activities, trouble sleeping, fatigue, appetite problems, suicidal thoughts, feelings of inadequacy as a parent, and impaired concentration.

o If you experience postpartum depression, you may worry about the baby’s health and well-being. You may have negative thoughts about the baby and fears about harming the infant (although women who have these thoughts rarely act on them).

o Postpartum depression interferes with a woman’s ability to care for her baby.

o When a woman with severe postpartum depression becomes suicidal, she may consider killing her infant and young children, not from anger, but from a desire not to abandon them.

* Postpartum (puerperal) psychosis is the most serious postpartum disorder. It requires immediate treatment.

o This condition is rare. A woman with this condition experiences psychotic symptoms within 3 weeks of giving birth. These include false beliefs (delusions), hallucinations (seeing or hearing things that are not there), or both.

o This condition is associated with mood disorders such as depression, bipolar disorder, or psychosis.

o Symptoms can include inability to sleep, agitation, and mood swings.

o A woman experiencing psychosis can appear well temporarily, fooling health professionals and caregivers into thinking that she has recovered, but she can continue to be severely depressed and ill even after brief periods of seeming well.

o Women who harbor thoughts of hurting their infants are more likely to act on them if they have postpartum psychosis.

o If untreated, postpartum psychotic depression has a high likelihood of coming back after the postpartum period and also after the birth of other children.

Postpartum Depression Causes

No specific cause of postpartum depression has been found.

* Hormone imbalance is thought to play a role.

o Levels of the hormones estrogen, progesterone, and cortisol fall dramatically within 48 hours after delivery.

o Women who go on to develop postpartum depression may be more sensitive to these hormonal changes.

* Other known risk factors

o Mental illness before pregnancy

o Mental illness, including postpartum depression, in the family

o Postpartum mental disorder after an earlier pregnancy

o Conflict in the marriage, loss of employment, or poor social support from friends and family

o Pregnancy loss such as miscarriage or stillbirth

+ The risk of major depression after miscarriage is high for women who are childless. It occurs even in women who were unhappy about being pregnant.

+ The risk for developing depression after miscarriage is highest within the first few months after the loss.

* Childbirth is a time of great change for a woman. The adjustment to these changes can contribute to depression.

o Physical changes after delivery

+ Many changes occur after delivery, including changes in muscle tone and difficulty losing weight.

+ Many new mothers are very tired after giving birth and in the weeks afterwards.

+ Soreness and pain in your perineal area (area around the birth canal) makes many women uncomfortable. Physical recovery after cesarean delivery may take even longer than after vaginal delivery.

+ Changes in hormones can affect mood.

o Common emotional changes after delivery

+ Feelings of loss of an old identity, feeling trapped at home

+ Feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities of motherhood

+ Feeling stress from changes in routine

+ Feeling fatigue because of broken sleep patterns

+ Feeling less attractive physically and sexually

* A mother’s age and the number of children she has had do not relate to her likelihood of getting postpartum depression.

Postpartum Depression Symptoms

Symptoms usually appear any time from 24 hours to a few months after delivery.

* If you have these, it is important to see a health care provider, who will look for other conditions that can cause similar symptoms.

o Sad mood, frequent crying

o Lack of pleasure or interest in activities that once gave pleasure

o Sleep disturbance

o Weight loss

o Loss of energy

o Agitation or anxiety

o Feelings of worthlessness or guilt

o Trouble concentrating or making decisions

o Thoughts of death or suicide

o Decreased interest in sex

o Feelings of rejection

* Physical symptoms such as frequent headaches, chest pain, rapid heart beat, numbness, shakiness or dizziness, and mild shortness of breath suggest anxiety. Postpartum anxiety disorder is a separate disorder from postpartum depression, but the two often occur together.

* See the introduction to this article for symptoms specific to each type of postpartum depression.

When to Seek Medical Care

Call your health care provider in any of the following situations:

* When you have mood swings or feel depressed for more than a few days after the birth of your baby

* When you feel you are unable to cope with the daily activities in your life, including caring for your newborn or your other children

* When you have strong feelings of depression or anger 1-2 months after childbirth

Call a neighbor, friend, or loved one who is nearby AND 911 right away if you are experiencing any of the following:

* Inability to sleep more than 2 hours per night

* Thoughts of hurting or killing yourself

* Thoughts of hurting your baby or other children

* Hearing voices or seeing things

* Thoughts that your baby is evil.

Postpartum Depression Treatment

While self-care cannot take the place of medical care in depression, there are things you can do to improve your mood and your ability to function at home.

What is SIDS?

SIDS is an acronym for sudden infant death syndrome, also known as crib death. SIDS is not any illness or disease; it is the diagnosis given when an apparently healthy baby less than one year old, dies without warning.

Which babies are most at risk?

All babies under one year of age are at the risk of SIDS. Doctors still have no way to pinpoint those with the most susceptible defects or abnormalities. Some children, however, have a risk of SIDS higher than the general population. SIDS is most common by infants between one and four months of age. SIDS strikes most often, but not always during periods of extended sleep.

How can I reduce my baby’s risk of SIDS?

Your doctor can suggest a number of things (see below) to decrease your baby´s risk, but at present there is no guaranteed way to prevent SIDS. However, state of the art techniques now allow for the precise monitoring of a baby’s vital functions during sleep. NANNY is an affordable device suitable for such a monitoring not only in maternity ward, but at home as well.

Useful advice

* Do not smoke in the baby´s room.
* Let the baby sleep on his/her back
* Use only a firm mattress, which fits tight to the crib/bed
* Do not sleep in one bed with the baby
* Avoid overheating the baby – a reasonable room temperature, not too much clothes or blankets
* Keep the pets away from the baby
* Always be with a baby when playing with toys
* Carefully choose toys for the baby

I was very excited I remember that I would be getting to see our little one more grown up, and this feeling that soon she would be arriving in a month almost was really good, and even mu hubby was excited that less time was left to see her.

We just could not wait to see her and celebrate those special moments. I remember we now wanted things to be settled and before ninth month starts everything should be ready before our LO came.

the ultra sound was good. everything went well just she said that head is little big but of course within the range and i got relaxed that nothing was serious by Grace of God. i remember returning from ultra sound i red this article on net which was informative

“How Big is the Baby at 34 Weeks Pregnant?”

By 34 weeks pregnant your baby is now 4.7 pounds and just shy of 18 inches long!! More so than ever before your baby resembles a miniature being from pregnancy 34 weeks on.

Your Baby’s Growth and Development

Your baby is continuing to grow and fill out during pregnancy week by week. In fact, that is his primary job during pregnancy at 34 weeks and beyond. Not much changes from 34 weeks pregnant and on except your baby is adding valuable meat to his bones. Keep in mind that the weights presented each week in our week to week guide are only estimates. Some babies will weigh in a bit larger and others a bit smaller. Some babies will also be longer or shorter. Every baby is unique.

There are many factors that make estimating the weight of your baby challenging as you continue pregnancy week by week. Many women like to get an estimate about how big their baby is during their prenatal visits. However, most estimates can be as much as 1 to 2 pounds off in either direction.

There are many reasons for this. It is difficult to guess how much the baby will weigh combined with the placenta and amniotic fluid. Even with ultrasound your healthcare providers best estimate may be off. Ultrasound however can be a valuable too to help predict the weight of the baby.

During an ultrasound your healthcare provider will take many measurements to help estimate the baby’s weight and size. Among the more common measurements include the diameter of your baby’s head, the circumference of the head and abdomen and the length of your baby’s femur.

Estimates are more likely to be within ½ to 1 pound when an ultrasound is used.

Changes in You

You probably are getting a little bit uncomfortable by pregnancy week 34. You are also likely to start feeling anxious to meet your newborn baby during pregnancy week 34 or thereafter.

Some women start to worry about whether or not their baby will fit through the birth canal at about this point in time. Generally your healthcare provider will not be able to predict whether or not your baby is too big to fit through your pelvis. This diagnosis is typically made during labor, when your physician can determine how the baby is fitting into your pelvis.

Just because you are petite doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to delivery a large baby. There are many women who are petite that go on to deliver babies 8 pounds or more.

Some women also start wondering when their baby will ‘drop’ sometime after week 34 pregnancy. Dropping is the term that refers to the process whereby your baby’s head enters the birth canal. It generally occurs in first time mothers a few weeks before delivery. In moms who have already given birth, it may not happen until a day or two before labor begins.

When you do drop you should notice a change in your abdomen. You might notice your baby is resting lower. You might also notice that it suddenly becomes easier to breathe, in part because you have ‘lightened’ your load and now have more room available in your upper abdomen.

It is also common to start feeling some pressure in the vagina after the baby drops. Some women worry that their baby might fall out. Talk to your doctor if you feel the pressure is severe. Your healthcare provider can check to see exactly how low the baby’s head is. Usually everything will be fine, you simply need to adjust to your baby sitting a little lower than you are used to.

Thus everything went well. and the week was good.

Usually it is said that at this stage of pregnancy if the baby is in cephalic position he/she would stay like this till birth but even if he/she is not cephalic and is breech then would change position by 36th week. And my baby was in cephalic position and it was thought that she might stay this way till end as with time the space for baby is less to move around. And also, the baby grows faster the end months, or the third trimester. Also, I was advised by a friend that if the baby is breech in 36th week ultra then walk can help him/her change its position, but it is not possible in every case as there are few who have do not have enough space and their baby stays in breech position.

Overall the week was great. And it was not though at all just the sleeping part was and walking around, as the heavier I was getting day by day it was difficult moving around but I tried best to get used to it, as soon as possible that I stay relaxed and do not get irritated at any time out of exertion.

Time was flying I guess and I could not believe every day was passing quick and also, I felt really nervous thinking of big day arriving. It was just a little bit scary when I heard different stories from friends and family. I just hoped that God keeps everything good and that everything goes well in the end.

Therefore, everything was as good as I wanted and I spent most of my time at time relaxed and chilled and enjoyed every bit of working and never let myself get bored.

It is natural to be scared of entering in the circle of motherhood. Things change and everything around changes accordingly and in start I have heard is not that easy. You can end up having exhausted days and nights, and you might feel tired and out energy mostly. But one should keep praying to God that He keeps everything good.

The nights now had been getting tougher and tougher day by day. As my tummy grew it just seemed that by the time I would full term I might not even be able to sleep at all. My nights been really restless and I felt really exhausted in past few days as I was not able to have enough sleep. It just seemed that I would never be able to have relaxing nights again.

I had now kept myself busy cooking as the whole day this was the only activity in which I walked and was sitting or otherwise I have been sitting and working. At least I had no guilt that I was not doing anything at all. And by doing this I kept relaxed that I was doing something which involved walking. And, office has kept me busy throughout and it was really good as I never got time to think of anything else, and my mind was always occupied.

I think it is a healthy way to keep your mind occupied with work, not necessary you should be going to office but in any sort of creative work as that keep the baby’s mind healthy as well. And it would keep you stress free always. During this period baby’s brain is being developed and I believe that if mother is busy in some sort of work then the baby’s mind would also have good effect of it.

The baby movements have been tremendous and by Grace of God the movements itself assured me that the baby was doing well and was healthy. Rest is that next week I would be having my ultra sound and would be seeing her all grown up. Thus, the week was great over all and it felt good that soon the baby would arrive in two months. Just a little time more and everything would change.

“At this point you may be quite eager for your pregnancy to end and your baby to be born. Aches and pains, along with feelings of anxiety, may increase at this time. Some women may become frightened by their own lack of maternal feelings. This is a common and natural emotion that many pregnant women experience. For some women, bonding won’t occur until birth — or even later. The final weeks may begin to drag.”

WHAT’S HAPPENING WITH YOUR BABY

Visually, your baby may track moving objects with the eyes. When he or she blinks, the eye’s iris responds to light and dark. The lungs and digestive track are nearly mature, although the last few weeks in-utero are still important for lung development. Your baby is now around 14-1/2 inches head-to-toe, and weighs nearly three pounds, five ounces.

EATING FOR TWO

Here are some quickie dessert ideas which will fulfill cravings but won’t fill you out:

* Enjoy an occasional full-fat, fruit yogurt. It tastes absolutely divine — and it can be more satisfying and healthy than ice cream.
* Make oatmeal cookies and sneak a tablespoon or two of Brewer’s yeast into the recipe.
* Freeze all-natural fruit juice pops to satisfy sudden cravings for sweets.
* Put some grapes into the freezer. They make a yummy, healthy snack that is good for you.
* Reduce the amount of sugar in recipes by substituting concentrated fruit juices and reducing the amount of other liquids added.
* Invest in a juicer. You’ll be amazed at how sweet carrot juice can be!

FACT OF THE WEEK

Breastfeeding is best, and it can be especially important to babies born prematurely. The breast milk produced by mothers of premature infants has an extra-high concentration of sodium, chloride and protein. These small babies more easily digest their mother’s milk than breast milk from a full-term mother or formula. Studies show that when women who have had full-term babies donate their breast milk to the Intensive Care Unit, the babies do less well than when the natural mother’s breast milk is used. Because premature infants fed formula are more susceptible to infection, and cannot benefit from the mother’s antibodies, it is recommended that all mothers strongly consider breastfeeding their premature infants.”

thus, as i wrote had nothing new this week. everything was same, i was pretty much busy. therefore, everything was good, week was great.