This week was a lot better for me. There were dinners in family and I was excited for going to them as for me it had been time seeing friends. And it was good chance to get around with everyone again. My hubby and I were very happy because because my 2nd trimester would be starting soon and it is said that pregnancy gets safe in 2nd trimester and it is honeymoon period of pregnancy. On top we were excited that next week we would be having ultra-sound.

The gatherings were great. We had fun. There were only two days I vomited and that was because I had yogurt. And it has not suited me at all during any week of pregnancy. Well and every time I tried it hoping that it might not make me upset. But I was not lucky enough.

Baby experts tell that at 12th week most major organs are made, but sex organs are not visible externally. And also kidneys are also functioning, and the baby now measures about 8cm from head to toe. The baby expert magazine tells that,

“12th week hormone level are raised and can make the gums more prone to bleeding”

Well, after reading this I was relaxed because my gums started bleeding whenever I brushed my teeth. Also, there was another veins of my hands and on my breasts became visible. I was worried but my doctor said that it is very normal in pregnancy. And it is completely okay if they are too visible.

As it is the last week of first trimester, we knew that after this our baby will grow every week. My doctor said that till 12th week baby is called foetus and from 13th week that means 2nd trimester he would in actual terms be called a baby.

In my baby I did not notice before but a line appeared. And after asking my doctor she explained that a dark line of pigmentation,the Linea nigra, appears on the abdomen,and on the growing uterus(roughly size of grapefruit),and will push itself above pelvic bone. Also, she said now I might feel hotter and thats because extra blood is circulating around the body. Also, now I had to rush to washroom to urinate frequently but it happens as the womb presses on the bladder.

The last day in first trimester felt awesome. We could not wait to see baby growing and getting to feel him in real just in few months. On top we were excited for the scan in 13th week. We just so so excited. I was extremely happy that now my pregnancy really good time would start. And this week ended really well.

The first day when I woke up up I was having bumps in my tummy that it is the 11th week and just one more week to go and my trimester will start. Well honestly, I really wanted to reach 20th week and get to know sex of the baby. And around in end of 5th month or start of 6th month when doctors prefer telling about the sex of the baby.
For my husband and me the thought of knowing the sex of the baby was so exciting. I never made any mind whether on a girl or boy. But yes I wish to have both. I was used to the iron medicine to an extent. Something did not suit me at all like yogurt. Whenever I had it I vomited and that was pretty bad.

One thing now was very much concerning that my tummy had very much grown, now I could not even zip my jeans and this growing tummy has issues when it comes to having sex.

Therefore, I searched again on Babyexpert.com that what positions are safe. The missionary position becomes impossible with time so something else should be tried.

So I searched and found an article “sex with a bump”

“sex therapist Rachel Foux explains that three positions are very satisfying when you are expecting,
-woman on top,
in this position you control. It gets satisfying a lot in later pregnancy(3rd trimester).you can guide your partner into you as you want,while looking at each other.
-spoons,
this is cosy, intimate position allowing you to take the weight off your bump as you lie together on your sides, with your back against his chest. Your partner curls around your back and enters from behind.

-All fours,
the position means you are to relax your bump, which is particularly good in later pregnancy. However, talk to your partner how deeply you want him to thrust.”

Its not compulsory that everyone is comfortable what is suggested above. Couples should become very creative during the pregnancy period and find their own comfortable position. And it is very important to be communicative with your partner. My husband and I were very communicative throughout as without that it is hard to understand each other feelings. For example, I got shocked when on 5th day I was changing and saw my tummy so out, I rush to my husband and said “look, my tummy is out,it should not be so out at this stage”? And he answered, “ why do you worry, you will lose later. It should not be on your mind and you should be happy that by grace of God our baby is growing and is in good health.”
Well, then I thought he is right. And I felt happy. I told him that next week is the ultra sound and we will see the baby moving and he by that time will have a human shape,little hands and feet. And this thought brought smile on our face. And that time I wished for one thing that I hope that God keeps this grace over us and we always have this smile.

At this stage I was worried that none of us end up ignoring the other. It really scares me. I have heard so much that later the wives comes so later after the children. As far as I have till now majority said that for husband wife changes, he ends up ignoring so much in the start that wife has no option but to involve herself with the newly born and then when husband nerves come to normal, he argues on the fact that wife is ignoring him. When he does not realize that he was the one who pushed her there. For a mother its not a big change because she has the baby in her tummy for 9 months. Very few had opposite story that husband become very caring towards the wife, more than before. It was never that I doubted my husbands love, but it was just that at times one does not know what he/she is doing and when you try to tell very few feel it. And they do not understand that when they have made their partner used to something they should keep doing it or otherwise they end up feeling ignored.

I do not know why some have to go through this period but I believe that if they are true about their feelings they would never let the distances come in any way and will never blame each other for that instead if they know that something is not right then they will make it right and discuss with their partner.

Thus, this week ended thinking and listening to people having different thoughts. It was hard to hear but it happens with people and it happens because of them.

This week was started off well first two days I had no vomit. On top I felt a change in me. I was fitting into my jeans but the button would not close, also now I could feel my tummy bulging out a bit. I did feel worried because big tummy never has comforted me but I knew it has to.

Apart from this happiness that baby is growing, I was unknown from the fact that something terrible will happen on second day. It was around 9:00 pm and I was in bed watching TV. And suddenly I felt pain in my back. At first I thought it will vanish but it tremendously increased. And when my husband came I told him that my back is hurting too much. And when I got up I realized that I had difficulty bending. I waited and was patient equally that it will decrease with time as my husband massaged my back. But it did not show any result. I could not think of anything. I was just lost as the pain was increasing. And I just thought why I am having so much problems, and honestly the most bothering thing for me was that my husband does not go through problem. Though I knew if he will he would never tell. From the next day I started taking two tablets. And my vomits got worst and on top my back pain was killing, I could not bend. And specially when I had to vomit and every time I got on my back again it hurted. It was only I who knew what I was going through actually and I never cried but that night was so though that I started sobbing and in very low voice that my husband does not hear or he will be worried. And I wanted him to relax. But next day it got worst and I had problem sitting and getting up again. My mother-in-law told me that I should not bend. And after three days of waiting I called my doctor. She said to put balm and massage. Also, she asked me that If I only had pain, as at times women can have bleeding and usually it happens when the uterus faces backward and it can create a lot of complications. But as I had no bleeding so everything was okay. Every night then my husband massaged me and after five days I got relief from the pain. My husband was most concerned about me at that time and he started to put pillow under my feet that I have no pain. And it felt so good to be pampered by him. Finally, this pain was gone. I was sick of it as I could not meet anyone, or go out and had to miss many gatherings because of my back pain. But now things were normal.

I felt another change in me, that there was an increase in sexual want. And I thought it was crazy and I got worried that maybe I am under some problem but it was not the case, I searched and on Babyexpert.com I was found this article “pregnancy can be really sexy time,says sex therapist Rachel foux. Your body becomes one giant chemical reaction-and pregnancy hormones trigger an increased sexual appetite, specially during the middle part of your pregnancy when you have stopped feeling sick and your energy level are back to normal. Also, your body is producing more blood than usual, making you extra sensitive to the slightest touch.” So now I felt normal because I thought that it was something abnormal. But for me it was not that having sex daily. I believe it all depends on the couple. When they are comfortable and think they want it they can can have it. Therefore, this week ended up in an informative way for me. Also, I got to know that on ivillage.com one can make their own pregnancy calendar and they can read day to day guide. Also, they can see the baby growing with pictures day to day. It is very exciting, and specially for the husbands because when they actually see the baby they feel very good because they really want to feel every part of parenthood.

I personally believe that this 9 months period is just very very exciting,for both parents. And both become very much prepared for the parenthood. And now I felt so excited that soon I will be entering 2nd trimester.

It was the week when I felt changes in my body, I could see my tummy out and
my breasts were changing too. This week had doctor appointment too. My husband and were waiting for the day as we wanted to discuss a lot of things
with her. Well, the day came and we were in the hospital with doctor. She checked my wait, had lost 3 pounds on which she said is not good. But I assured her that I am eating good. Also, that I can not eat home food much. And she was k with it that I eat pizza, mac and kfc. Then my husband asked her if it was okay that I had chocolates because before doctors told me not to as I had nose bleeding problem, and she said it was fine. I was happy. I am a chocolate lover. Also, I asked her that if I could have coke and she said that not much but yes I can have it. She explained that in take of carbonated drinks on high level can harm the baby. So I was taking coke on weekends and we decided to let it go that way.
She then discussed my HB problem. It was 9.05 now, a little higher than before but not enough for the baby and me. So doctor asked me if I was eating food rich in iron and I said yes I was. So she told us that now she is going to put me on iron tablets as to make my HB better and if God for bid it would not work she will have to inject me with iron. And moment I went quiet and sad because I had heard that injecting iron makes the baby complexion go really dark and I really did not want that. Though in first trimester doctors do not make any medicine compulsion but in case of complication they do give it. They will always put mothers on folic acid
only. She told me that I should not be category on “anemic” as usually they
have put mother on extra blood as she gets low on it after delivery and that is dangerous. She told me to take “phorous sulphate”, and that for 10 days
I had to take 1 tablet and later 2 tablets a day. And for six weeks. She warned me that I will have vomits a lot after I have the tablet, I thought it would not be that bad.
My husband was very concerned over one thing that he had searched a lot that
eating fish makes the brain of the baby very sharp and he/she is

intelligent. Well, doctor said that eating fish s very good the brain, but not all fishes are allowed to be eaten in pregnancy. Also it is not compulsory that my body accepts it. So she said that I can take “seven seas “ tablets as they are made from fish. And assured us that it would not be harmful for the baby. Really, I was thinking that moment how many tablets I have to take. But all for the baby, I was ready to do it,and so was my husband ready. As it could my body in start goes under little more pressure in regard to throwing-up.
One thing I was badly regretting when I left hospital and that was my past
doctor telling not to diet as my body could not bear it. But I had wish of becoming super slim and having an inch smaller waist and I dieted severely
and result was that a year back doctor told me I was low on iron but I did not know I will have to suffer so much later. I wish I could undo what I had done but nothing cold be done. My husband kept relaxing me that things will be fine and I would have need to be injected with iron. I every time thought one if my husband was not so supportive what I had done without him.
I must say that Its not over confidence over my husband, its just that I have been hearing such negative things in regard to husbands during pregnancy that I want to share my experience and tell women that not every men is same neither every women. Also everyone has very different experiences and I strongly believe that every couple has different life because they all are different but made from one thing and same organs. So it does not matter if they are under one relationship.
Therefore, I had full support of my family and they were taking care of me throughout so that I always stay happy and the baby stays equally happy. My this week got tough. Since gynecologist told me to take iron tablets, and after this medicine I threw up every time I had it, and it was unbearable for sure. I just did not know what to do. And every time I went to rest room
I always talked to my baby and told him that mama and papa are going through
every tough time just for you, love them always. There was another tension going on in me that too many iron tablets might affect the complexion of our baby. But my husband told me it does not happen this way.

This week I was on one tablet daily and from next week it would be two tablets and my thoughts were so confused with the fact that if one tablet has done this what will happen with two. And I was so so worried but I knew I had to take it anyway because I want the baby to be as healthy as possible. And my husband always said he wants me to be under good health so that after birth I do not go under any problem.
I had an argument with my husband that c-section is better than natural delivery. And he showed me some searches and facts and video and trust me my thoughts changed and I just hoped since then that I have natural delivery because I want to be back to normal routine right after. Now I kept telling my husband that I really want 2nd trimester to start as I I want to be normal. Thus, the week ended and leaving in thought that two more days and two tablets a day.

This week was toughest on me. I thought that now I am eating properly and things are set now. But next day at night I had sour throat and pain was increasing, I could not eat anything, even drinking was so hard. My eyes were going red. And that instant I knew I will have fever. My gynecologist told me to have panadol normal when I have headache or any sort of illness. First I waited that it might get better. My husband came back from office he told me to take medicine. I ate fruit and then ate medicine. That night was tough as I had pain in my ears. I always had this thing before every year. And I got better quickly after taking antibiotics. But this time I could not have it because of pregnancy. But I kept taking panadol. As I had fever and I did not want it to get worst, even though the pain was worst. But my husband was so helpful. I had problem getting up and doing stuff in room. He made sure that I do not have to do anything and he did everything and never complained. I felt guilty that he had to do so much and I was not able to my work. I was thinking one thing that one thing overs and I get something else. What if my husband ends up tired and irritated. Because anyone would
become if the wife is not able to do anything. I do not know the way at times negative thoughts made way in my mind. Though I never let them effect me in any way but even then it did in one I used to feel very down at times and felt like crying but I was very stubborn I never cried because I did not want to be week. This whole week I was ill and at times I wanted to eat chocolate but I did not because I have nose bleeding problem once it starts it never stops. The doctors in past told me to avoid chocolates. And my husband made sure that I do not eat a lot of them. And I kept myself restricted to week-ends, also in case of coke as I have badly been addicted to coke and during pregnancy it is very bad to have excessive of it. And for me no boundaries lay when I am drinking it, I can drink three to four 1.5 liter bottles a day. And even if pregnancy is not there it is harmful. And tried my best to avoid it as much as I can. Thanks to my husband he kept an eye on me so that I do not end up harming myself. But I must say that its craving was bad, nothing could replace it. Apart from coke, junk food from certain places can be harmful. My outing was just to pizza hut, McDonald and KFC.

It was hard for me to eat just at home, because I used to have bad craving for certain food. And as I was ill and totally not able to eat, I preferred fries only. I was happy on last day as in 9th week I had my appointment and I wanted to discuss a lot with my doctor, and so did my husband. But we were happy on one thing that I did not have bad fever.

Finally, the seventh week started. We were really really happy that soon I will be hearing the heartbeat of our baby. I was back to normal, had started eating and all. The next day was the ultra-sound. My husband was equally excited. That day we were on time, and I opted for trans-vaginal ultra-sound. It was because usually heartbeat is difficult to hear in abdominal ultra-sound. The waiting was over and I went inside for the ultra-sound. My husband and my mother-in-law were sitting in my doctors office, and I was inside a small room where my check-up was to be done. The doctor told me that this ultra-sound might hurt bit and equally will be uncomfortable. And it was more uncomfortable than I thought. She checked the size of the baby, and I was seeing it on the monitor in front of me. And after sometime I could hear the heartbeat of the baby and it felt too good that a life is being made inside me. The doctor asked my husband and mother-in-law if they could hear it. And they said yes. After a while I was done with it and went out in the other room. My husband had a smile on his face and we both had feeling of relaxation. The doctor told me that our baby was supposed to be 7.2 weeks according to last menstruation but it was 6.4 weeks. I had to show the scan report to my gynecologist. We were waiting and suddenly she had to leave for an emergency in the labor room as during delivery a complication occurred and an operation had to be done. Me and my husband were praying that everything goes good. And after 1 hour 30 mins she returned and she looked happy. So we knew that the operation went good.

She checked my scan report and everything was fine it was just I was 10 days off. She just gave 5 mins because my proper check-up was in two weeks after few tests were done. Now I was back in 6th week again. But I was relaxed even than because good part was that baby’s growth was good, nothing to worry. According to baby expert the hormones will slow down the digestive system. The baby is still an embryo but is growing rapidly.

Also it tells women a very important fact which is that “ low birth weight, prematurity and high miscarriage rates are all reported in women with eating disorders”. If the mother does not eat properly in early days the development of the baby can be effected as his brain is organs are developing.

My gynecologist was very concerned that if I was having milk or not because it is very important that baby gets enough calcium. Calcium is very important for proper development of bones. I was having milk daily due to that doctor did not give me calcium tablets. My husband made most effort in this, I used to forget to have milk, and first thing he used to do after waking up in morning was that he gave me glass of milk. Even if used to say I will have it later, he used to tell me have it now.

I always knew that pregnancy is not at all easy. One thing I started doing was talking to baby, always telling him/her that he/her has to be very good to his/her parents. And that has to respect them specially daddy because he is putting tremendous effort to take care from now.

This week was different for me. I was going crazy to eat strawberry’s and apart from them I ate banana and oranges. It was tough to even think of food. I was surviving on fruits and my husband and mother-in-law were worried that how will i be able to live like this. And that how will the baby survive. If was not hungry
and i forced myself to eat something i definitely vomited. And i was having very though time. But good part was i was eating fruits a lot. I could only see strawberry’s and i was eating them like crazy.

The days were passing and I was excited about my first ultra sound and side by side i was a big change in me that negative thoughts were too much present in my mind. It was getting hard to cope, as where ever i went people used to tell me that husbands treat the wife differently after the child,they do not consider them as sexy and charming, they are off sex in pregnancy and even later, it takes long time for them to get used to the fact that their wife is also a mother now. And also that once the girlfriend becomes a wife her status drops little bit and when she becomes a mother she is in no category in husband eyes. And after hearing all this i really was worried. No one would want to loose their husbands love and affection. Almost every night that time i asked my husbands same questions and he asked me “have i changed since your pregnancy occurred?” and i answered “no, you have not”. He assured me that why would he change and think this way for me, he loves me a lot and our child. Yes, one thing he told me was being physical at times makes him uncomfortable and he is scared too because thinking he might hurt the baby. And honestly when he told me that i found him so cute. And it was not his fault everyone goes through this and it takes time to assure that nothing will happen. It was best thing about him that he was honest to me and he discussed with me because he wanted to be sure that the way he thinks, is right or wrong. He was extra careful regarding me that i watch good stuff on television, i am happy, if i want anything I am provided that. The cutest thing he said was that i want to be part your pregnancy and the only thing i can do is to get everything you want and if you are in pain i can help to share that time, because he wants me to be relaxed and happy, and want me to stay like princesses. I loved these words of him. Whatever i was told about husbands was proved wrong because my husband was not at all like that. At this stage of my pregnancy i was on toughest period and his patience was so important and i used to think if he loses it what will happen.
But it never happened. He was so calm and supporting. I felt so happy to have husband like him. And his care kept proving that everyone does not have same experiences and it defends on partners how do they handle different situations.

In few days i felt my chest tender and painful. It was heavy and my nights were very bad. At times my husband used to wake up worried that i used to be sobbing in sleep and he used to hug me to relax my painful nerves.

Finally, it was last day of my 6th week and after long time i had milk and little bit of other foods, hoping that now i will be back to normal.

This week was important for me as I had my first appointment with my doctor. I was ready to discuss everything but same time was tense for low HB. Finally, the day arrived and I went to doctor. She was very nice and comforting which relaxed my nerves a lot. I was first registered as a patient in the hospital, my profile was made. And during i was asked about everything if my father was diabetic?, if there was an abnormal child in my family? If i am anemic? In short if i have gone through any sort of medical problem before.

My answers were yes to above three questions. She was not worried for anything but being anemic. The doctor told me that it was not good to be anemic and being pregnant. Iron deficiency can cause a lot problem for mother and child. She advised me to eat food rich in iron like chicken liver, tomatoes, spinach etc.

That day my husband could not make it with for the appointment as for him it was not comfortable to go as their are pregnant women and we were not sure whether the husbands come their or not. I was happy to see husbands there because my husband wanted to come n be with me and see progress of the baby. That day the doctor said when i will be in my 7th week i will have an ultra sound to check if heartbeat of the baby is present or not. To hear about it was exciting. Also she said was that my HB should get back to normal or she will have to inject me with iron. I got very worried on hearing that because i was told by my sister that being inject by iron make the baby very dark in completion. And of course as a mother no one would want that. After the heartbeat comes, doctors tell to do couple of blood tests just to be sure that important vaccinations are given to the mother.

That Sunday was the most terrible. I had fried liver and from the next day i felt heavy inside and had lost my appetite suddenly. Also i knew soon i will be throwing up and it would be tough. I could not have milk neither could eat anything and everyone was very worried that if i wont eat it would effect me badly and also the baby. I was able to eat fruits though. I consulted my doctor and told her that I have lost my appetite. She told me to have “mucane” as it reduces the acidity effect of some foods and i was told to take it before every meal (LUNCH AND DINNER). Every day was tougher and now i had started to vomit. It was worst as ever, i had to rush in washroom 6 to 7 times a day. But after few days it was gone and i was relaxed that tough days are gone.

My husband was very very supportive. He smokes like a chimney but since my pregnancy occurred he never smoked when I was around. He used our dressing room every time he had to smoke. Not only that his smoking reduced tremendously. Every time I looked at him I had thought that my sweetheart is doing so much to make as comfortable as possible. I hoped every time that i hope i am able to be good wife equally.

It was hard to believe that I was pregnant. I was lucky one to know it very early. On the other end, I could not feel anything. But as a mother to be. I had to be very careful. First three months are most crucial and important. Both mother and father have to be very careful in every aspect. Though the child is not visible but a lot of care is required for its survival.

I had bad nausea, and could not bear any sort of smells like spices and onions etc. There was one big change in me, I had strong smelling power. Smells I did not like I could feel them from distances and feel nauseous. I totally cut off tea in my diet as its for me was bad every time. I did not eat anything in between my meals but still I had gained 5 kg in just one week. I was very mush concerned as everyone around noticed my weight gain and it isn’t suppose to be gained so quickly and tremendously. But I was waiting for my appointment with my gynecologist in few days. Tension is something which is unavoidable but mother cannot afford to be sad and tensed at any point. And my husband has been very supportive in every way I must say. He assured me that every one is not same so do not worry let it be,n after delivery lose whatever you will put on. At first it was not adjustable. But his constant help was very useful for me.

He did every best to be as careful as possible. Even if 1:00 clock in night I want to eat something he will not think and order and it was because I was craving for something. I remember that night when he told me everything he was doing was for me because he wants me to stay out of pain and trouble. and those words were so comforting that I felt the luckiest girl on earth to have a wonderful husband
with beautiful heart inside.

Therefore, it is good to eat healthy and good food. But few things are compulsory to add in diet like fruits and milk.

To decide about your doctor should be most concerning factor for every parent. I must say that not everyone can afford good doctors but at least one can try to search and than decide which doctor to go for.

I was lucky on this part my sister-in-law had already done the search and I chose her doctor. Though on my part I did discuss it with my married sister but she did not have any perfect answer as her doctor was outside country. Everyone is not lucky having good doctors as a lot of factors count in specially “finance”, but at times doctors end up ruining the cases, and then one has to suffer. So solution to this for me is at least once in every trimester one should consult a good doctor. Now I will write about my week to week experience of pregnancy.