The journey has strated:1st month old baby

Posted by admin | 1 month old baby: | Wednesday 28 October 2009 4:47 pm

I remember first three days were at hospital and our baby was doing really good. doctors had to put her in light to treat her for jaundice. and it made her skin go a little dark as well.

When i came home she slept for three hours and then she woke up for milk and it was a task. all of sudden she stopped having milk and could not latch at all. and i used to sit two bending and to help her latch for milk. and she just could not. she kept crying all day and night. it just was so terrible, and hard to control irritated mood. i remember who ever came thought that i am not putting up enough effort to feed her or that i am not feeding her my milk. so many comments just made me feel irritated.

I was never guided that breasts should be really soft and pressable that baby can latch easily, mine were a little soft, i was guided late by that time i got fever and i fainted and my baby was in my lap and my hubby held her that she does not fall. she was premature baby, just 4.8 pounds. it was hard to take care.

Worst comments had been that i did not eat enough in last days and that is why my amniotic fluid dropped but it was not the case and this is what i know. it just seemed that everyone was trying to tell me that i do not care for the baby and this really depressed me. i not only felt this but i got really depressed that as if God had put me in big trial and i was not able to pass at all. i started feeling that i was loosing my hubby, and i was not able to enjoy the motherhood fresh start it just seemed a punishment and it was clear that i was going through depression. it just seemed that children were not a blessing. i just did not want another one but i knew i cant run away now and will have to have another one after few years as my hubby loves kids. and it depressed me further more.

I was all the time scared that i was loosing my hubby maybe i could not stand his attention diverted but i got it in head a little bit. but honestly it is not easy to fight negative feelings. and most disturbing part was that i knew my hubby was going through frustrated moods but he never discussed, and when i asked he promised that he did not feel this at all. and in case my hubby and my feelings were opposite as what i have heard from others. another reason is for all messed up feelings that she has been ill till now,flu,and i had to put her on formula milk which made her constipated and it took time to settle her down i think one full month to calm her down.

No matter what i will i knew one thing in all these things, all negative wives i loved my daughter a lot and i took care of her as much as i could and no matter how much frustrated it has been i did it. and she is one adorable baby and i know no one can ever replace her.

Thus, still fighting to get used to motherhood, and i am wishing everyone good luck who are going to be mothers. and one thing i would suggest is that it negative feelings do not take my experience too serious as i believe that everyone has different experiences and that try keeping help it would keep giving you break and would let you have time of your own.

Week 35:

Posted by admin | Third Trimester | Wednesday 28 October 2009 4:14 pm

I remember when I went to my doctor she was not happy and wanted me to shift to hospital as soon as possible because the amniotic fluid dropped to 6 and she told me it would not be good to wait another week as the baby’s health level would drop. I had no choice but to accept what was planned by God.
I shifted to the hospital and it was decided that I will be induced at 7:00 pm the next day would be my delivery. Well, I was very excited to see our daughter but on the other hand I was very scared that my baby is healthy as she was coming in 36th week, almost a month earlier.
I was induced at 7:00 pm on 17th September and I was told that I would be taken to the labor room on 18th morning at 6:00. I was given a lung maturity shot so that baby’s lungs are mature enough to survive when born as her estimated weight was 2.1kg. It took an hour in CTG and inducing process. It was painful. It was first experience and I really hoped last too. God must have something planned for us but I just hoped that people who have no complications are far luckier. I was really stressed and really nervous that how would the delivery be. Well, it was not final that it would be normal one or a cesarean. And it was really hard for me to accept this fact that If I would end up in Operation Theater then what would be the point to go under all labor pain and inducing process and its pain the whole night. That night was definitely hard. But my hubby was there and his support really made me strong. Also, family visited which was very supporting too.
The next day, which was 1st day in my 36th week, I was taken to the labor room and I remember how nervous I was. My hubby was with me and my mother-in-law. First I went alone in the labor room. They gave me all the medicines and injected me with antibiotic, when I got settled then my hubby was called and then the waiting period started. It was 9:00 at that time. We chatted, took pictures and just waited when she would arrive. Our eyes were on the clock as the doctor said that approximately it would take 6 to 8 hours. It was long waiting.
I did take epidural but when I was 8 cm dilated it did not work and also, at that stage it took a lot of time to get to final stage of labor. I was unconscious as they gave me pain injections and within one minute you get drowsy and fall asleep immediately. And that is what happened to me, and I remember my hubby was really worried. When finally I had to push the pain did not seemed that bad, in fact they were better and controllable then the before ones. I remember I was really worried before that I might shout and do stupid stuff. But Thank God nothing happened that way.
Everything went good, and our little one arrived at 2:50 pm on Friday the 18th. The first time my hubby and I saw her we had tears our eyes. And we were happy to have her in our world as we had waited long enough to see her. Once her check-up was done my hubby brought her in and she was all dressed up and looked so cute. It felt great to be parent. And I just could not believe that I was a mother of beautiful daughter “inaaya”.

Postpartum Depression:

Posted by admin | Useful Information | Tuesday 20 October 2009 8:16 pm

One thing that every many women faces is “POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION” after delivery. usually women mix baby blues and postpartum depression. but i have jotted up postpartum depression information that women know the difference.

Postpartum Depression Overview

You’ve just had a baby, one of the most important and happiest events in your life. “What could make a woman happier than a new baby?” you wonder. So why are you so sad?

We don’t know for sure, but you are not alone. As many as 80% of women experience some mood disturbances after pregnancy (”postpartum”). They feel upset, alone, afraid, or unloving toward their baby, and guilt for having these feelings.

For most women, the symptoms are mild and go away on their own. But 10-20% of women develop a more disabling form of mood disorder called postpartum depression.

* The “baby blues” are a passing state of heightened emotions that occurs in about half of women who have recently given birth.

o This state peaks 3-5 days after delivery and lasts from several days to 2 weeks.

o A woman with the blues may cry more easily than usual and may have trouble sleeping or feel irritable, sad, and “on edge” emotionally.

o Because baby blues are so common and expected, they are not considered an illness.

o Postpartum blues do not interfere with a woman’s ability to care for her baby.

o The tendency to develop postpartum blues is unrelated to a previous mental illness and is not caused by stress. However, stress and a history of depression may influence whether the blues go on to become major depression.

* Postpartum depression is depression that occurs soon after having a baby. Some health professionals call it postpartum nonpsychotic depression.

o This condition occurs in about 10-20% of women, usually within a few months of delivery.

o Risk factors include previous major depression, psychosocial stress, inadequate social support, and previous premenstrual dysphoric disorder (see premenstrual syndrome for more information).

o Symptoms include depressed mood, tearfulness, inability to enjoy pleasurable activities, trouble sleeping, fatigue, appetite problems, suicidal thoughts, feelings of inadequacy as a parent, and impaired concentration.

o If you experience postpartum depression, you may worry about the baby’s health and well-being. You may have negative thoughts about the baby and fears about harming the infant (although women who have these thoughts rarely act on them).

o Postpartum depression interferes with a woman’s ability to care for her baby.

o When a woman with severe postpartum depression becomes suicidal, she may consider killing her infant and young children, not from anger, but from a desire not to abandon them.

* Postpartum (puerperal) psychosis is the most serious postpartum disorder. It requires immediate treatment.

o This condition is rare. A woman with this condition experiences psychotic symptoms within 3 weeks of giving birth. These include false beliefs (delusions), hallucinations (seeing or hearing things that are not there), or both.

o This condition is associated with mood disorders such as depression, bipolar disorder, or psychosis.

o Symptoms can include inability to sleep, agitation, and mood swings.

o A woman experiencing psychosis can appear well temporarily, fooling health professionals and caregivers into thinking that she has recovered, but she can continue to be severely depressed and ill even after brief periods of seeming well.

o Women who harbor thoughts of hurting their infants are more likely to act on them if they have postpartum psychosis.

o If untreated, postpartum psychotic depression has a high likelihood of coming back after the postpartum period and also after the birth of other children.

Postpartum Depression Causes

No specific cause of postpartum depression has been found.

* Hormone imbalance is thought to play a role.

o Levels of the hormones estrogen, progesterone, and cortisol fall dramatically within 48 hours after delivery.

o Women who go on to develop postpartum depression may be more sensitive to these hormonal changes.

* Other known risk factors

o Mental illness before pregnancy

o Mental illness, including postpartum depression, in the family

o Postpartum mental disorder after an earlier pregnancy

o Conflict in the marriage, loss of employment, or poor social support from friends and family

o Pregnancy loss such as miscarriage or stillbirth

+ The risk of major depression after miscarriage is high for women who are childless. It occurs even in women who were unhappy about being pregnant.

+ The risk for developing depression after miscarriage is highest within the first few months after the loss.

* Childbirth is a time of great change for a woman. The adjustment to these changes can contribute to depression.

o Physical changes after delivery

+ Many changes occur after delivery, including changes in muscle tone and difficulty losing weight.

+ Many new mothers are very tired after giving birth and in the weeks afterwards.

+ Soreness and pain in your perineal area (area around the birth canal) makes many women uncomfortable. Physical recovery after cesarean delivery may take even longer than after vaginal delivery.

+ Changes in hormones can affect mood.

o Common emotional changes after delivery

+ Feelings of loss of an old identity, feeling trapped at home

+ Feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities of motherhood

+ Feeling stress from changes in routine

+ Feeling fatigue because of broken sleep patterns

+ Feeling less attractive physically and sexually

* A mother’s age and the number of children she has had do not relate to her likelihood of getting postpartum depression.

Postpartum Depression Symptoms

Symptoms usually appear any time from 24 hours to a few months after delivery.

* If you have these, it is important to see a health care provider, who will look for other conditions that can cause similar symptoms.

o Sad mood, frequent crying

o Lack of pleasure or interest in activities that once gave pleasure

o Sleep disturbance

o Weight loss

o Loss of energy

o Agitation or anxiety

o Feelings of worthlessness or guilt

o Trouble concentrating or making decisions

o Thoughts of death or suicide

o Decreased interest in sex

o Feelings of rejection

* Physical symptoms such as frequent headaches, chest pain, rapid heart beat, numbness, shakiness or dizziness, and mild shortness of breath suggest anxiety. Postpartum anxiety disorder is a separate disorder from postpartum depression, but the two often occur together.

* See the introduction to this article for symptoms specific to each type of postpartum depression.

When to Seek Medical Care

Call your health care provider in any of the following situations:

* When you have mood swings or feel depressed for more than a few days after the birth of your baby

* When you feel you are unable to cope with the daily activities in your life, including caring for your newborn or your other children

* When you have strong feelings of depression or anger 1-2 months after childbirth

Call a neighbor, friend, or loved one who is nearby AND 911 right away if you are experiencing any of the following:

* Inability to sleep more than 2 hours per night

* Thoughts of hurting or killing yourself

* Thoughts of hurting your baby or other children

* Hearing voices or seeing things

* Thoughts that your baby is evil.

Postpartum Depression Treatment

While self-care cannot take the place of medical care in depression, there are things you can do to improve your mood and your ability to function at home.

SIDS

Posted by admin | new born information | Tuesday 20 October 2009 8:07 pm

SIDS is very important to know once the baby has arrived as when it is new parenthood everything cannot be known but at least tried to be known. thus, i searcged and and found a very good prescribed piece of information.

What is SIDS?

SIDS is an acronym for sudden infant death syndrome, also known as crib death. SIDS is not any illness or disease; it is the diagnosis given when an apparently healthy baby less than one year old, dies without warning.

Which babies are most at risk?

All babies under one year of age are at the risk of SIDS. Doctors still have no way to pinpoint those with the most susceptible defects or abnormalities. Some children, however, have a risk of SIDS higher than the general population. SIDS is most common by infants between one and four months of age. SIDS strikes most often, but not always during periods of extended sleep.

How can I reduce my baby’s risk of SIDS?

Your doctor can suggest a number of things (see below) to decrease your baby´s risk, but at present there is no guaranteed way to prevent SIDS. However, state of the art techniques now allow for the precise monitoring of a baby’s vital functions during sleep. NANNY is an affordable device suitable for such a monitoring not only in maternity ward, but at home as well.

Useful advice

* Do not smoke in the baby´s room.
* Let the baby sleep on his/her back
* Use only a firm mattress, which fits tight to the crib/bed
* Do not sleep in one bed with the baby
* Avoid overheating the baby – a reasonable room temperature, not too much clothes or blankets
* Keep the pets away from the baby
* Always be with a baby when playing with toys
* Carefully choose toys for the baby

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